Monday, August 29, 2016

Psychoanalytic Discussions for Professionals

I host weekly discussions on contemporary psychoanalytic topics at Downtown Mind Wellness (www.DowntownMW.com) every Wednesday afternoon.  We cover everything from Fairbairn to Stolorow.

If you are a mental health professional or a graduate student, please email me to get on the invite list to join us.  My email is drryanjanis@gmail.com.  Space is limited!

Saturday, August 13, 2016

How Much Per Session?

Perhaps the most common question therapists hear during the initial phone call is, "How much per session?" or "Do you take my insurance?"

One of the reasons you won't find fees listed on my website is because there are too many variables that come into play when arriving at the total cost.  If you plan on using your insurance, I will need to obtain your specific plan information to assess how much you might expect to pay "out-of pocket."

While I can't give you an exact answer through this website, the good news is that I'm an expert at navigating the confusing world of health insurance!  And, I always make sure there aren't any surprises for you.  If for whatever reason we discover that therapy with me might be too expensive, I often help patients find another suitable referral.  Don't be afraid to ask!

Saturday, July 9, 2016

Have You Been Ghosted?

Poof.  They're gone.  Vanished. "Ghosting" is a relatively new term that describes the experience of having someone who you had regular contact with suddenly withdraw entirely from your life without explanation.  The person who is doing the "ghosting" will not return phone calls or texts, and in the world of social media, he or she might even block you from viewing social network feeds like on Facebook or Instagram.

It's a puzzling, jarring, and disturbing phenomenon that seems to be occurring more and more in an online world with less and less accountability.  The person who has been ghosted inevitably asks, "What did I do or say wrong to cause this?"  While it's an understandable question to ask, the answer often lies in the limitations of the one doing the ghosting, or if you will, the ghost.

Of course, no two people are exactly alike, and differences inevitably arise in any relationship.  But, one of the things that distinguishes a healthy adult relationship from a shallow or immature relationship is the capacity for individuals to talk about their feelings and differences.  In the relationship that ends with ghosting, the ghost is saying, "I can't handle talking about my feelings, bye!" Ghosting is basically a slang term for avoidance of something uncomfortable.

In many cases, the ghost doesn't have the capacity to talk about his/her feelings.  He or she might not even fully know why they can't confront whatever is bothering them.

If you've been ghosted, you probably know that it is often best not to pursue the other person.  The ghost, through their behavior, is communicating all you need to know; getting them to verbalize it is likely an exercise in futility and could even cause damage.  You may not be able to start a dialogue about what caused the person to abruptly depart, but you can try to accept the sad reality that you may have overestimated the relationship to begin with.  You may have had hope that your relationship with the ghost was deeper than it really was, but with time, the anger and confusion you're feeling turns into feelings of disappointment and ultimately acceptance.  After all, don't you want to be a relationship with someone who can actually talk about their feelings?

Thursday, April 28, 2016

Women's Health Magazine Article

Here's a piece that appeared in Women's Health Magazine that quoted me.  It's an article about the top advice couple's therapists give to their clients.  Click on the link below to read:

Click here to view the full article on expert advice from couples therapists.


Thursday, November 5, 2015

Office Photo


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Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Stop Trying to Please Everyone!

"You're such a nice person"  is usually meant as a compliment.  After all, the world needs more "nice" people, doesn't it?  Sometimes, being nice requires putting the needs and wants of others over your own.  But, when the needs/wants of others are constantly placed over your own, it comes with a greater cost than you might think.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Are Creative People Prone to Mental Illness?

Charlie Parker. Jim Morrison. Vincent Van Gogh. Ernest Hemmingway. Marilyn Monroe. Kurt Cobain. Sylvia Plath. Jimi Hendrix. Heath Ledger. The list goes on and is seemingly endless. They were all wonderfully creative. They also all died from self-destructive behavior often associated with mental illness, such as depression.

The untimely deaths of actors, writers, musicians, and other creative types seems to have become so commonplace that the general public seems to almost expect it, if not accept it as a hazard of the workplace in which artists toil. But what causes this self-destructive behavior? Could it be linked to creativity? Are artists really more susceptible to mental illness, such as addiction and depression, or do they just get more publicity when it occurs?...